Today I would like to address the question of cutting cords as recently this topic has come up a few times. It has made me think of how often we believe that the easiest thing to do to get rid off a difficult relationship or experience is to cut our cords with that person (or with an experience we have had with that person). If we look at angel reading cards we will find cards telling us to “cut cords”. I don’t know if you have ever felt the need to do that and if you have tried to do it and come to realise that it is not that simple. If you look at the cords that you have with people you might know that they can be quite strong and healthy but also that they can be darkened and filled with impurities from the experiences we have had with another person. Imagine now, you are cutting that cord. What will happen? The cords might be just dangling afterwards still filled with impurities and being dark (my perception). Has that helped with your healing process? Maybe or maybe not. Why? Because in some way all the negative experiences connected to that person are still hanging on to you – and the same applies to the other person.
Of course you can now start to heal that dangling cord and you might think it might be easier to heal it just that way, because at least the cord is cut and you no longer have an energetic connection with that person.
I attended the Arcturian Healing class (level 1 and 2) with Gene Ang recently (absolutely worth attending – although Gene runs them mainly in the US but if you do get a chance to attend one, then don’t hesitate! He will be back in Zurich next year). Cutting cords was once again a topic. The suggestion was to perhaps instead of cutting cords we “incinerate” them. Certainly they would no longer be hanging dangling anymore and now we believe they are definitely gone. We are completely disconnected from that person – no cords left.
No matter whether you intend to cut the cords or “incinerate” them, you are setting an intention, hence that process will happen. Usually not immediately, but over time. At the end of the day we are human and emotions and connections won’t disappear instantaneously but if you intend to cut cords it will happen sooner or later. So be aware what you ask for. Could it be that you asked for it in a moment where you really felt hurt by somebody else? Has that person drained your energy and it really is time to say: stop! Nobody should be feeding off your energy! All they have to do is actively connect to the source, so they really don’t need your energy! For your highest good it is definitely necessary to stop any energy drain.
So what is my view on cutting cords: I believe instead of cutting our cords we should infuse them with unconditional love and light and ask for those cords to heal and for your relationship to heal and the experiences to heal. I believe once you intend healing with love and light, healing will take place. It might take a long time and the outcome might be completely different than expected but healing will take place for those cords and for the relationship. Healing could even mean to go separate ways or that it will happen in another lifetime (there are some particularly stubborn people out there!). Unconditional love and healing in a relationship can also mean leaving the relationship because it is for everyone’s highest good. Healing and infusing our cords with love and light might also brings us insights and knowledge that we would have not had before because it was all buried under darkened cords.
Even when you infuse cords with love and light and when you send healing to a relationship it might take time to see the healing take place, depending on how much needs to be healed and how deep it sits. Be patient. Sometimes it means that we need to give each other space in order to do that. All the experiences might have created a lot of pain and it takes time to release that pain. It is even important to understand that people often react and behave in certain ways because of fear, ego or pain and that their pain, their ego or their fear will not allow them to see how they are hurting somebody else. It is often also a way people protect themselves from being hurt.
In extreme cases you or they might even be fed thoughts by beings (also known as ahrimanic beings) that don’t have your highest good in mind. For some of us that is still difficult to believe but it can happen. Of course, there needs to be resonance – or a hook, that those beings can attach to. It’s always good to ask yourself if it truly is your thought and sometimes it might well be your thought but observe what happens with that thought. It is you who decides what direction it will take. Sometimes, it’s as simple as saying: this is not my thought.
If you feel somebody is feeding off your energy, then infuse the cords with unconditional love and light and then seal them. As I said, nobody should be feeding off your energy, no matter who it is. Whatever you ask for always include: may it be to everyone’s highest good.
That way you have at least intended love and light for your relationship with another person or for that person but you are also sending the message that the person needs to turn to the infinite and divine source for energy.
Please also remember unconditional love does not mean to allow others to treat us without respect. I do agree that is necessary to set boundaries. However, it is so important to learn to stay in our heart space and be able to give unconditional love. When we are in a challenging relationship – no matter with who, partner, parents, kids, boss, friends etc. then it certainly is very difficult to stay in our heart space because the other person might not be able to do the same – because of his/her conditioning, programing, experiences etc. For them it might be even more challenging to deal with a person who stays in the heart space than somebody who will lower the vibration as well and get into a big argument or power struggle.
Sometimes we might be so upset or disappointed with somebody or their actions that we really feel we want to cut all contact and cords with that person. In such a situation I believe it really is the best to take that step back and give yourself some space. Try and look at it from a distance. Sometimes when I am upset about somebody else I recognise that it’s my ego that is hurt because I cannot get hurt when I am in my heart space, where I only feel love. It takes practice to learn to detach from the ego and move in those moments into the heart space.
In some cases it might well be that a person is constantly draining us and feeding off our energy and they cannot see it. Then it might be necessary to point it out to them and if that does not help then perhaps we shouldn’t spend too much time around that person – because it will drain us and lower our vibration.
Also, everyone is on their path where they are meant to be but sometimes also choose to be. Do not underestimate the power of free will! Another point to consider: there are no chance encounters and everything happens for a reason. Sometimes we meet people for karmic purposes. Other times people come into our lives because we need to learn something from them or they are meant to learn something from us – or we learn from each other (which is usually the case). Again, keep the focus on yourself. It is your soul, your learnings, your life, your karma and your choice. It is up to you to be love and light. Everybody else has to make their own choices.
For me the most important message is to infuse everything with love and light and share our love and light. The moment we get into arguments, the moment we let our ego take over that very moment we lower our vibration and we no longer stay in our heart space and that very moment we no longer feed only our own dark side but we feed the collective dark side. That’s how big the impact is.
Also, as both Salvatore and I always like to say: when you are in your heart space, you cannot get hurt. From experience we can both confirm that it works.
Whoever is meant to and wants to stay in our life will stay and whoever is meant to and wants to leave our life will do so too.
I would also like to share a prayer by Saint Francis called the “servant of peace”. For me this has become such a powerful intention, affirmation and manifestation that I like to use it every day and even if I just recite a few lines of it. Snatam Kaur has also integrated it into one of her chants so you can also listen to it.
Lord, make me an instrument of Thy Peace;
Where there is hatred, let me sow love;
Where there is injury, pardon;
Where there is doubt, faith;
Where there is despair, hope;
Where there is darkness, light;
Where there is sadness, joy.
Oh Divine Master,
Grant that I may not so much seek
To be consoled as to console;
To be understood, as to understand;
To be loved, as to love;
For it is in giving that we receive,
It is in pardoning that we are pardoned,
It is in dying that we are born into eternal life.
For me the second part is even stronger because it really asks us to let go of our ego and move into our heart space, where we can give unconditional love without expectations and conditions.